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During high school, many students highly anticipate what is oftentimes the final dance of the year: prom. This year, it will be held at The Exploratorium in San Francisco. Last year, the dance was held at City View at Metreon. In the lead-up to prom at Gunn, classrooms, lunch lines and bike cages are filled with conversation in anticipation of the yearly event. Yet all of this excitement comes with a cost, according to Dance Commissioner senior Adele Davis. 鈥淚t鈥檚 a much bigger dance (than others), not in terms of how many students go, but (in terms that) it鈥檚 a really big part of high school,鈥� she said. 鈥淧rom is a huge part of the high school experience for a lot of people, so there鈥檚 a little bit more pressure about making sure that it is the dream night everyone wants.鈥�

This dream night also comes with possible pressures, such as finding the perfect dress or attending with a date. Junior Elizabeth Jackson notices the obligation that comes with public promposals. 鈥�(Promposing) in a public space (brings) a pressure in and of itself to say yes,鈥� she said. 鈥淵ou don鈥檛 want to embarrass the person asking and you don鈥檛 want to make everybody who鈥檚 watching upset.鈥� Jackson underscores the importance of not feeling like you have to say yes just because the promposal was in front of other people. 鈥淚f the person who鈥檚 asking in public to go to prom with you is confident enough to do it in front of a group, then they should be prepared for you to say no because that鈥檚 just how asking someone works,鈥� she said. 鈥淒on鈥檛 be afraid to say no because it鈥檚 definitely not your fault if they feel hurt, since they should have prepared for either situation.鈥�

As the Vice President of the Title IX club, Jackson emphasizes that the expectation to agree to a promposal can be a form of unhealthy communication. 鈥淧romposals are along the same lines as love-bombing: a grand gesture of love that makes it really hard for someone to escape that situation.鈥�

While at times there is a forceful culture surrounding asking a date to prom, students oftentimes abide by an etiquette when it comes to public promposals. 鈥淢ost people don鈥檛 do promposals if they don鈥檛 already know that the person is going to say yes,鈥� Davis said. 鈥淭here aren鈥檛 a lot of promposals (at Gunn) that get rejected because it鈥檚 mostly done by established couples, but then I bet there is a kind of pressure for people who are asked out of nowhere.鈥� Jackson also notices that many promposals at Gunn are between established couples. 鈥淚鈥檝e had friends who have done promposals, and most of the time they say yes,鈥� she said. 鈥淏ut most of the promposals I have seen have been between people in relationships.鈥�

In addition to feeling pressured into saying yes through promposals, there is also a lot of encouragement among peers to find a date. In comparison to other dances, there is more emphasis on attending prom with a date. 鈥淎 lot of people feel the pressure of having a date where homecoming is a little bit more casual (and) a lot of people are comfortable just going with their friend group,鈥� Davis said.

In addition to finding a date, many students are pressured to spend large sums for a perfect outfit and ideal prom experience. 鈥淭here鈥檚 definitely an expectation that you have to spend a lot of money on prom,鈥� Davis said. 鈥淵ou have to buy the tickets, dresses or tuxedos鈥攁nd even renting them is expensive. People get a lot of stuff done in preparation, and prom is an expensive event for a lot of people. There is that pressure of looking your best. There is also that culture of spending a lot of money for this one night.鈥�

Jackson agrees that the prom atmosphere compels many to ramp up their spending. 鈥淚f you鈥檙e planning on going to prom, there really is no escape from spending that much money. While (some) people at Gunn can already spend the money, it isn鈥檛 fair for everyone,鈥� she said. 鈥淭here鈥檚 a whole atmosphere that鈥檚 built around prom to just spend money, to buy the ticket and then get some type of outfit together.鈥�

To combat these expenses, Gunn has initiatives in place such as scholarships for students to help pay for tickets and the Prom Dress Closet, a project which collects donations of prom dresses, suits and tuxedos to be donated. In addition to school-provided solutions, there are also other ways for individuals to spend less on prom, according to Jackson. 鈥淓ven if they don鈥檛 seem obvious, there are ways to go to prom without spending hundreds and hundreds of dollars,鈥� she said. 鈥淵ou can borrow a dress from somebody else or rent one. Thrift shops also have amazing dresses.鈥�