For sophomore Alex Efermova, immigrating to the U.S. from his small town — Krasnoyarsk, Russia — seemed like an impossible privilege because it provided a fresh start.
Because Efermova didn’t have the resources to learn about the LGBTQ+ community in his primarily conservative town, he felt alone in and confused about his identity. “I am a queer person,” Efermova said. “I didn’t know (being queer) existed (until) I was 10 or 11. Growing up, I didn’t know anyone who was queer. It’s so hard to find queer (representation) in Russia, especially in not-that-big of a town.”
The size of his school only made the atmosphere more oppressive. With only twenty rooms in his school, Efermova spent 11 years with the same class of 30 students. “(My classmates were) very homophobic — (they made) fun of gays,” he said. “I was called slurs. It was not very pleasant, but I assumed that there wasn’t anything different.” Even though living in a safe and accepting environment was a dream for Efermova, he doubted it would ever materialize. “I didn’t think it would ever come true in a way that I (could) experience it myself,” he said.
In February 2022, Efermova faced the prospect of something different: life in the U.S. Efermova’s dad, who owned a software company, wanted the family to relocate to Silicon Valley, where he would have more clients. Efermova wasn’t completely on board. “(Moving) to the U.S. was more of my dad’s dream than mine,” he said. “I was not entirely happy about coming here. I’m a person that likes (stability).”
It wasn’t until after becoming accustomed to his new life that Efermova finally found people he could connect with: allies both within and outside of the LGBTQ+ community. “I connected (with) a bunch of other people, and now we have (a) friend group,” he said. “As a person who never had many friends, and never was very accepted anywhere, I feel really grateful to (have) my friends. They chose me to be in a friendship with. I feel like this is the best my life has ever got.”
Although Efermova was initially opposed to immigrating to the U.S., he now appreciates his dad’s decision. “I am really grateful (to) my parents for bringing me here,” Efermova said. “Even though it’s not something that I explicitly was dreaming of, America brought me the dream of freedom to be able to be myself.”